It was the very day I was teaching my Self-Love call in January that I realized that he had poofed. This is so common in the age of online dating that there is even an official
term for it – ghosting. They are there and then they just fade away.
Here is where I might begin to differ from you - when I finally let myself believe that he had disappeared which of the following questions did I ask myself?
- What the hell is the matter with
him?
- What the hell did I do?
- What the hell is the matter with men online these days?
B. And let me clarify. One way to read that question is – Since I am not enough, how did I fail? That is NOT the way. The correct reading is – Since I
am enough, I must have caused/attracted this – what is this problem trying to tell me that I’m missing? Where is there a gap in my self-love that caused this? THAT question - is the only question that you need and it is the question that will change your life.
Because that question takes 100% responsibility for anything that's going on in your
world.
Years ago a guy disappearing on me meant he was an ass. There appeared to be no small shortage of asses on the planet, so this conclusion seems logically sound. Whenever I’d share a story like this with girlfriends they would back it up - Yep, sounds like he was an ass.
But I know now his poofing was MORE about an issue with my self-love and I was seriously (read super FREAKING seriously) motivated to figure out what had separated me from Mr.
Coolest Profile Ever.
I used a logic tool that I had just modified for my self-love teaching to help me spot the gaps in my self-love. I found not one, not two, but EIGHT different gaps relating to receiving my future mate! Holy F Batman! These were beliefs and ideas that would block him from finding me or pursuing me or in this case make him disappear.
I realize that the Universe sent Mr. Coolest Profile EVER not so I could date and marry
Mr. Coolest Profile EVER (dang it) but so that I could be alerted to blocks I had that were keeping me from receiving my true love. Remember, if you listened to my self-love call, problems are not obstacles to be solved - they are merely directionals pointing out the gaps in your self-love.
I took an event that most women would have blamed on the guy and I used it
to find the weakness in me and fix it. (If enough of you ask me, I’ll talk to you about what those 8 blocks were and how I released them next week.)
Cool lesson and here comes the MANIFESTATION…!
While I'm telling my friends about this guy and saying that he disappeared I kept telling ONE joke. I’d say maybe he's gone off to Saudi Arabia to drill oil. He's probably just super busy in Saudi Arabia drilling
oil. Oil drilling in Saudi is busy work, that’s why he didn’t reply. He'll contact me as soon as he can.
For me this was an awesome joke alternative to Mr. Coolest Profile EVER just completely ditching me.
I've been telling it and laughing about it for 3 weeks whenever I wonder what happened to that guy.
The Punchline Arrives & The Universe Delivers
You have doubtless heard that the universe does not have a sense of humor. What that means is it processes what we think and feel and say pretty much as is.
