Forgiveness is NOT ABOUT THEM.
I teach it is 80% about YOU, 20% them.
So here is the new and shocking thought you need to know - the horrible sick or angry feeling that “this person” causes in you is NOT FROM THEM. It is the feeling you are getting from splitting yourself in
two.
NEWSFLASH: Your inner being, higher self or soul (pick one) is NOT pissed off at your mother!
Your soul was there when you PICKED HER for your life’s lessons, your very curriculum down here REQUIRED HER TO BE: lazy, crazy, mean, incompetent, selfish, drunk, bossy etc.
Do you know how crazy your soul must think you are? Much like a child
who asks for a food, demands IT and then won’t eat it?
Your soul loves whoever “hurt” you (yes, that IS truly annoying sometimes), it understands why they did that “crazy” thing and understands how you will BENEFIT from the “betrayal” IF and WHEN you let yourself.
But You? You are pissed.
THAT disconnect drives the majority of your negative feelings. You are disappointing
YOURSELF with your dis-alignment.
Taking yourself out of alignment with inner truth blocks your ability to receive your PURPOSE (and all the other good stuff too...).
So here is
my big secret to forgiveness: As you are not Budda or another enlightened avatar, it will likely take you MORE than ONE attempt to forgive. We often “decide” to forgive and then get frustrated when we discover 2 weeks later we are angry all over again.