[Stress] Crazy Family? My Best & Easiest Solution...

Published: Fri, 09/23/16

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Crazy Family? My Best & Easiest Solution...

I bet you suspected some kind of trick. Nope. I am going to give you a solution. Will you apply it? We’ll see…

Let’s say your family is….cruddy. Mean on a good day. That you’ve got at least one person who they would throw off a reality show where they DON’T even eliminate people.

One of your holiday stories would make a therapist start to cry.

Got it.

On the Therapist's Couch

You want to know where your pain comes from? You expecting them to be kind, loving, decent, moral, law-abiding, supportive family members.  Yep, this is pretty much a self-inflicted wound.

You KNOW how they are and yet, much like the cartoon Charlie Brown and his doomed efforts to kick that damn football, you keep going back expecting BETTER.

STOP IT. (See, I told you those were 2 of my favorite coaching words.)

Ready for your solution? Stop looking to your family to meet your needs.

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Stop Looking for Your Family to Meet Your Needs

Don’t expect Money. Support. Love. Encouragement. Understanding. Listening or Forgiveness not readily offered.

Cross those off your “Family TO DO” List.

At your age, if this hasn’t happened yet, I hate to be the one to confirm it, but that horse you’re still kicking is dead.

I know. Some part of you is MAD. Your Mother should be loving. Your Father should remember your birthday. Your brother should try harder not to steal from you (twice).

Your sister should cover SOME of her cleavage when your husband and sons are around and stop “borrowing” money from your aging parents. (And yes, she WILL raid their house the moment someone passes away. You are NOT getting the promised diamond earrings OR the photos.)

Should. Should. Should.

What if you just stopped looking for acceptance from that family member who you can’t make things work with? 

If they don’t show up as agreed, you’d be okay, you didn’t rely on them.
If they make you feel fat, you’d be okay, you don’t need them to say nice things to you.

When you stop HOPING they will change and accept them as they are (crazy and all)…something remarkable usually happens. They get better. In the absence of your judgment and resisting, they can get a little better.

Learn to Fill Up Your OWN Tank

Go into the world and find mates and friends and jobs where you feel accepted and loved.

Learn how to fill up your own tank and stop trying to make liars honest and the lazy, work. Stop complaining that your family isn’t supporting you.

There are no Waltons, no Cleavers, no Cosbys (clearly!). There are just people in pain who had children and never got coaching.

Look at family members who are difficult as your place to GIVE and not to GET and your entire life will shift.

And lots of people have family who WILL give a little but you want way MORE. Stop IT (2 min video).

If you can accept you aren’t going to fix them before they die, you can spend the last years with them being grateful for what does show up and NOT looking to them for your love deficit.

You can actually STOP fighting if you don’t need to change them.

If you constantly feel “lonely” and feel like no one is supporting you, I can teach you how to break the habit of looking first to family & others to give you love. It will change your life.


 
 
 
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P.S.  I am playing with Facebook LIVE. I will be on the Air today LIVE around 10 am EST - right before I hit the gym! 

I will give some more insights into crazy family and if you are there, I’ll answer your questions LIVE. If you can’t make it, email it! And I’ll get it this week or next.


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