Today's TRAINING:
We’ll analyze your wait & see approach and see how effective it is at giving you what you want.
GIVEN:
We were designed by a Creator in the Creator’s own image, thus we are in fact Creators.
Given:
Creators…well…create things. They are ACTIVE. They build and decide and select.
Given:
You like what you get MORE when you selected it (created it), than just
accepting whatever shows up (passivity).
Tanya’s Observation For You:
In your life, you are sitting in “observation” mode on one or more things that are very important to you. You are taking a “Let’s wait and
see what happens…” (LWSWH) approach.
Tanya’s Theory:
Waiting to see what happens is PASSIVE, the opposite of CREATION and leads to results you would not
choose
(i.e., sucky outcomes).
Advanced Theory:
LWSWH causes Passive Aggressive behavior. You are passive while watching and become Aggressive when you, shockingly, do not receive exactly what you wanted but did not Ask For/Work For/Stand For/Create or Expect.
Here is WHY You Play LWSWH
Fear – I can’t get what I want or I’ll lose what I have
Avoid Responsibility – You don’t want to take action to avoid any chance of
blame
Ignorance – You don’t realize you CAN change
it
Habit – Do any or all of the above long enough it becomes your PATTERN
Here is WHAT LWSWH DOES to
You
It trains you:
To not take action
To not risk for rewards
To hide from responsibility which is the PRECEDENT OF TRUE POWER
To put your needs below everyone else’s
To remain powerless and unaware of what YOU
can do
To never break your bad habits
Here is WHAT You Say You Want (Hint: Exact Opposite)
To take action
To receive rewards
To own your true POWER
To have your needs met reliably (you are the only
source to meet your own needs reliably FYI)
To stop feeling like a fraud and finally DO what you know you can DO
To change whatever doesn’t serve you
****Therefore, you cannot play LWSWH anymore
Here is Why LWSWH Energy is Your Enemy
You cannot create anything new that you want while you are
in PASSIVE, non-creator energy. I have proven this above with logic. If you want a 2000+ year old shortcut – “Faith without works is DEAD” covers it. Meaning, if you sit there having faith but taking no action, please do not expect ANYTHING to change.
LWSWH is undirected faith without
works.
If you follow my teachings, I teach that ALL fear based motivations MUST fail. The Universe cannot permit the long term success of desires, actions or beliefs motivated by fear. That is why ALL evil regimes and dictators eventually fall, for example.
LWSWH is inaction MOTIVATED BY FEAR. It Must Come to a Poor End.
So let’s dissect an example (I’m feeling very scientific today!).
Heck – we’ll do two.
Biggies, love and money. The marriage that’s kinda not working anymore and the job that’s kinda not working anymore.
LWSWH energy says (no shock), don’t rush into action! Don’t do anything rash! Because that really IS sound advice, we nod our heads
and unfortunately, keep listening.
Let’s wait and see what our husband does at the in-laws THIS holiday. After all, he did promise a year ago to do better. He really meant it, so let’s just see what happens this year. This could be the year when he helps with the work and the shopping and the coordinating and the kid shuttling and the dealing
with his crazy ass brother and notices I am so tired and starts supporting my work and tells me he loves me and…(breathe) If this Christmas is as bad as LAST Christmas, that is IT, I am going to tell him in no uncertain terms that…(insert AGGRESSIVE action/demand here.)
Let’s wait and see what our boss does next. He HAS to know that we need a raise, NO,
DESERVE a raise. He must know all the extra hours we JUST put in on HIS project that HE freaking underbid. If he doesn’t do something for me by the first of the year, then I’ll just have to… (insert Aggressive thing here).
Yuck. Just
writing that felt icky. Can you see it? A marriage is very important. Why leave it to chance that he KNOWS what’s the matter and the gravity of the situation (trust me, he doesn’t!). You have to TELL HIM.
I teach my women how to have those long avoided conversations.
At work, whether you are an employee or the owner, nothing changes until SOMETHING CHANGES. If it’s your butt, heart or money on the line, I hope YOU are the “something” that is willing to change and act.
Where are you doing this?
Where are you letting LWSWH set you up to ride this roller coaster of doom? Stop blaming the other people in the amusement park and get off the flipping ride!
We have periodic elections in the US (and probably in your country too). And I love the saying, “If you didn’t VOTE, you can’t COMPLAIN.”
There are a lot of people who are shaking their heads and saying, Let’s wait and see what happens, which you now KNOW for certain is
destructive. When you see something that is important to you, figure out how to take some action around it. Even if it’s a very small one.
LWSWH is really a WISH married to a HOPE (and you know what I think about Hope! 4 Letter word).
Because we are in fact designed to DESIGN our own lives, the Universe has to make sure that the majority of your results from “wishing and hoping” are not GOOD, otherwise you won’t take responsibility, choose and ACT (like creators do).
Poor people LOVE LWSWH. They often marry it with
complaining WHILE they wait.
If you are letting someone else roll YOUR dice and sitting back hoping THEY roll YOU a 7 and complaining when they DON’T, you will never get what you want consistently.
I said this in a Facebook Live video, your life is YOUR PARTY, stop waiting for an INVITE to your OWN PARTY!
Love,
Tanya, Your Massive Action Coach
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