Happiness is actually our natural state. While that sounds like spiritual psychobabble – it is actually true. All the great teachers will
tell you that happiness is not gained by things you ADD to your life, but noticed as you take things AWAY. Your happiness is usually blocked by the conditions you stack in front of it.
So I want to talk to you for a moment about those requirements. Let's get honest. What are the things that you have to have - the conditions that you are requiring in order to BECOME happy? What conditions do you
require to STAY happy? These are your blocks.
I had a relationship with a guy who was always worried about either ‘losing something he had’ or ‘not getting something he wanted’. Think about that for a moment. That occupied ALL of his time and he never really felt happy. So clearly, we didn't work out.
Is it that promotion you need? Is it when you get the debt paid off? Once you turn the marriage around? Once the kids get out of the house? Once you lose the weight? Once you've found the magic elixir to love yourself? Once your Mom apologizes or husband supports your business?
These are all conditions that you're requiring to BE
happy. Now here is the scary part. The majority of the conditions that you require for happiness are not 100% within YOUR control.