Today's TRAINING:
Fault is Creation
This past week I've explained this concept of fault to an 18-year-old and a seventy-year-old and a few other people in between. The defensive cry of the ego is, "oh, so
you're saying this is ALL my fault?" (If you could please insert an eye roll, plus a shocked look and an unbelieving tone you've got this perfectly).
Yes. I say to their consternation or if you prefer a shorter word, annoyance.
It is interesting to me that the word “fault” has
become almost synonymous with responsibility. Kind of let's you know how our society generally views the word responsibility doesn't?
However, a better word for fault is creation. At the base of it, nothing ever happens to you by ACCIDENT. The Universe does not permit, allow, support or manifest victims.
We were given Dominion and free will. We are at cause in our lives.
(Fyi - The most common reason a husband cheats is to reflect back to his wife HER lack of commitment to HERSELF. Her issue causes her to attract a man with present or future commitment issues).
Sharks In The Water
I survived a man who tried to kill me in Law School. Was that my fault? Damn Skippy!
I had pushed & become highly book educated but at
the same time ignored growth of my self-love and self-worth. Result? I was vulnerable to predators. I was crying out for somebody to love me without ME LOVING ME which is blood in the water for sharks.
If you dump enough blood in the water where there are sharks, a shark will come and eat you. Is that the sharks fault?
No!
I don't think they would let me speak at domestic violence shelters and conventions because I would walk in and tell everybody - wait for it - this is YOUR creation! When you stop giving off victim energy and stop dumping blood in the water you WILL stop attracting sharks!
This is a Universal law. It's not going anywhere.
The Law of Triggering (tm)
If you are busy being a victim under the law of like to like, you'll attract friends who are victims and enablers. That's pretty clear. However, under the Law of Triggering, God aggravates the wound you already have so you SEE it and step forward to fix It. So, by Law, you also attract what triggers your
victimhood, i.e. predators.
In my opinion, the Law of Triggering, as I've chosen to baptize it, can be a lot more important of the Law of like to like. You see, when you attract to yourself what you are, it's so comfortable that it doesn't occur to you anything is wrong.
When you attract what hurts you you pay attention because you're in pain. Unfortunately, this is where blame steps in and you project the reason for the pain onto another person, defeating the original purpose. Stop that.
Most Important Teaching
If you wanted one teaching from me this entire year that would change your life-it would be:
Take 100% responsibility for ALL of the bad that's ever happened in your life. (I don't have to tell you to take responsibility for the good, we seem to be pretty good at that
one).
This is what I always tell my coaching clients, if it's you, I can fix it. If it's somebody else, you're effed.
Do you know that most of the fights that you have, are fights where the other person wants YOU to take responsibility for something? Imagine how many fights disappear if you
stepped forward to all arguments and said “You know what? I got it. This is me. I messed something up. I'll go figure it out.” Crickets. Silence. Tumbleweeds. There would be nothing else to say.
There's more science that I could stack in a room that tells you that your state of mind, how you think & the words you say affect the state of your health. Every
millionaire on the planet talks about and focuses on the SAME THINGS - that your mindset and core beliefs CREATE your life.
What if it REALLY IS YOU?
What if… It really was you? If you can handle that truth, you can change your life. And
people who handle this truth ARE the people who change our world.
I don't have a lot of stressors in my life because I own 100% responsibility for any that I DO get it. Universe doesn't have to chase me around with escalating problems anymore because the minute I see one, I look at it and go wow -Tanya, you missed something here. What is
it?
So while I don't like the word fault, very negative feeling, if you can get yourself to total responsibility, you can create the life that you actually want.
I transform people in three stages. The first stage is Massive Truth. The second stage is Massive Action. That leads to
the third stage, Massive Transformation.
You need to be wrong about whose fault (responsibility) this is.
If this is YOUR fault, there's nothing you can't be do or have.
If this is NOT your fault, there's nothing you can be do or have.
