And when we DON’T pick again, 4 bad things automatically begin happening:
1) We subconsciously begin resenting the deal (because usually the deal has shifted and we DID NOT SIGN UP for the
current stuff)
2) Everyone “relaxes” and starts slacking off because there is no accountability because no one is counting anymore!
3) It teaches Alphas (who are ALREADY full of trust issues) that commitment is PUNISHED and
4) It
encourages Alphas to lie to themselves about how their life is going to avoid having to undo very old and now messy choices.
Continual Choice Prevents Slacking.
(And of course this is true in your business
too…)
It's human nature. You work to get attractive and sexy and awesome and then your mate picks you and then…? You. Slack. Off. You gain weight, drop your interest level in bed and put the kids, car repairs, bills, work and even lawn cutting ahead of your man.
You slack off
because there's never another "examination". If you stayed tuned into the idea that those who CHOSE you can and will UNCHOSE you if you fall too far below the starting mark, you would commit yourself to the continuing excellence that comes from still needing to “qualify.”
Oh doesn’t that just FEEL dirty! The idea of needing to re-qualify to keep your mate. But…wait for
it…that IS the way it is, we just all ignore it. Remember, you can only manage what you measure and you aren’t measuring anymore!
Remember early dating? He starts to suck -> you leave! Your choice to go on date 1 did NOT insure he could get date 2 or 5.