How to Do HARD Things #1: Create a Low-Stress Holiday?!🎄

Published: Wed, 11/03/21

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How to Create a Low-Stress Holiday?!

Truth? Most of you are NOT really looking forward to the holidays.

It doesn’t matter which ones you celebrate. Me? I’m a Christmas and New Year’s girl. But oh, the crazy list of things to DO!

How to Do HARD Things #1: Create a Low-Stress Holiday?!

So, Here’s the Process to Creating a Low-Stress Holiday

Focusing on how you want to FEEL will be new for many and a refresher for my older Alphas.

1. Admit that your holidays are typically stressful. (Have to start from the truth!)

2. Decide you are ready to experience something better. (Have to commit to this!)

3. Pick out the dominant Emotion you WANT to feel this season INSTEAD of whatever you always get pushed into. (Ease vs. Rushed, for instance).

4. Pick out the Top 3 Threats to you feeling the way you want. (Pressure to give perfect gifts? Mother-In-Law’s need for worship? Dealing with the Ex and scheduling?)

5. Figure out ONE thing you can do to improve EACH of those three danger zones. (Example: Announcing now that you are only doing gifts for grade school and younger & Visa gift cards for everyone else. Adjust the schedule, so you limit time at MILs home. Let your Ex have their way! Not the hill you are gonna die on this year!)

6. Do those 3 things!

7. Notice if/how guilty you feel. Don’t beat yourself up. Arranging the holiday to suit YOU is new. It took me two years to get my holidays happier for me.

In Joy,

P.S. I used to make myself CRAZY over Christmas. Too many obligations and people needing something from me. Nothing left for ME.

I'd literally wrap presents, fly all over the country, rent cars and THEN drive to see people who LATER wouldn't drive across their local city! One change I made when I was still in the US? I'd announce where I'll be and for how long and...that's it. Get there or not. All good!

How to Create a Low-Stress Holiday? Decide how you want to feel and take a decisive step to make that happen. And do it now!

This CANNOT be done in December or right before the holiday. You can thank me later! (And yes, you can do this stuff by text message.)

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After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.

She is a 22-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of 'The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce', Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach.

Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor.

Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.

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