#1 Truth #2 Trust #3
Timing
1. Emotional Truth
You must UNCOVER your EMOTIONAL TRUTH before you start talking.
Not as easily said as done because Alphas are not used to letting themselves FEEL what they FEEL.
Emotional Truth is about how you feel and not primarily about making someone else change.
You’ll need to sort out your "control" junk so it doesn’t creep into what you need to say.
2. Trust in Truth
You are NOT trusting they’ll listen.
You are NOT trusting they’ll GIVE you what you need.
You are NOT trusting they WON'T defend themselves.
You ARE trusting that the Truth unites. It heals and so must be spoken (from your self-love).
My Favorite Quote:
“That which can be destroyed by the Truth…SHOULD BE.”
P.C. Hodgell
Please repeat that 10x. If you do, you'll feel the energy of that thought shift and GROW in you.
If the Truth will kill your marriage, end your friendship, and screw your business deal…what do you REALLY have?
A well-protected LIE that you are complicit in.
Hiding these lies destroys your soul’s expression and blocks your joy and intuition.
3. True Timing
There are moments when you are more likely to be heard. Less likely to be attacked.
Ask your heart (gut/intuition) when to speak. I am ALWAYS ready to speak BEFORE the Universe gives me the green light. I have learned to wait.
Package Up Your Truth Like A Sandwich
a. Warning - I need to talk about something difficult with you
b. Reassurance - we are okay, you are not in trouble, I still love you, we'll figure this out (whatever is true)
c. Structure - I’m going to let it all out, and my words may not be perfect. And I am asking you to listen until I tell you I’m done (this gives you some security and them some clarity on what will happen)
d. Permission - What do you think? Can you do that? Is now okay? (You need their buy-in, you may not emotionally ambush someone Alpha without consequences!)
That’s how you do it. Let me know how it works for you.
Don’t carry stuff into the Holidays or next year.
You can do it Alpha. Speak truth from love. ❤️