What that means is, your “pain” around anything that upsets you is only one SMALL piece of the pie. The rest of the pain pie is you being furious that what happened, actually happened.
1) You can simplify your stress by noticing and practicing releasing your resistance to fuckery that has already occurred.
2) You can simplify your stress by noticing and practicing releasing your resistance to fuckery that has NOT YET occurred (but you are so certain about and anticipating, that you’re ALREADY upset).
Resistance is all the energy you spend wishing it hadn’t happened, blaming whoever did the thing, and racking your brain for signs you missed leading up to the mess.
It’s you saying this is WRONG and should NOT have occurred, after whatever it is already happened.
You’ll need to strip away some of the thousands of thoughts you are repeating in your head about whatever upset you.
Simplify your stress this week by not adding to the "event" with the runaway train of your mind.
Yes, this will take serious practice, so get started!
Need an example?
A difference between how a mother with her first child reacts to the preventable spill & stain on the couch and how a mother of 3 reacts.
The experienced mom moves much more quickly into surrender. It’s happened. Let’s figure out what we need to do. This is not the hill I want to die on today.
New mom? This will still be stressing her on the weekend.
Practice Simplifying your stress this week.
