There is a simple Universal law that is vastly underrated: Perfect Love Casts Out Fear.

I absolutely love this law!

That can be rewritten as:
Pure Gratitude Casts Out Grief.

Let’s look at the three elements of the law:

* Perfect love or Pure Gratitude
* Casts out/Prevents/Heals
* Fear or Grief or Resistance

It would be very accurate to say that love and fear, grief and gratitude are like light and darkness.

If you walk into a dark room, you turn on the light and the light casts out the darkness. Love and gratitude act like a light to the darkness of our grief.

You do not seek to make a dark room, “less dark.” You turn on the light.

Like light and dark, stop trying to LESSEN your Grief. Turn on gratitude.

I did a Coaching blog many years ago that explained that you cannot “push away fear.”

Anything you push against, i.e. resist, not only persists, but it usually strengthens. If you resist your grief, you strengthen it. Trying to "lighten it", resists how IT wants to be at that moment.

When you choose to live in an active awareness of the many things you are grateful for, darkness/Grief/fear cannot occupy your heart.

 When you are full with Light, dark cannot creep in.

Continually taking care to be in Gratitude is like

 a child’s night light. It PREVENTS the dark.

I want you to understand that this is not a trite woo woo concept. It’s real.

To live a life where your predominant energy is Gratitude, you have to FREE yourself from resentments and guilt.

The 2 things that fuel most of the grieving that you see that incapacitate people are… resentments and guilt.

The best time to handle the resentments and guilt you have for your loved ones is right now, before they pass away. If you wait, if you let yourself stay busy, if you put it off until you just feel better about tackling it… you may find yourself on the wrong end of a phone call that changes your life forever.

I know of an Alpha, who had unhealed issues and traumas with her mother. (Note: That is basically EVERYONE OF YOU ). Her mother passed away suddenly, and after her death, the Alpha suffered a psychotic break.

I know had I been able to work with this Alpha on healing, prior to her mother’s passing, that a very sad end could’ve been averted.

Unhealed guilt, resentments, trauma, and decades of defense mechanisms are the normal drivers of our grieving process. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Whatever you need to do to heal your trauma,

 your guilt and resentments, so that you can move 

toward the higher frequency of Gratitude, you need to do.

If you’re reading this right now, you KNOW the relationship that is the stickiest for you, and it’s most likely your mother. Do the work Alpha.

Right now some of you are thinking, “You don’t know my mother! There is absolutely nothing to be grateful for!”.

I have seen human atrocities that defy imagination in my 25 years as a high conflict divorce attorney and leader of Alpha Women.

I am not suggesting that you find gratitude for your abuse.

I AM suggesting that you find gratitude in what you have learned from your abuse, and how you have transcended your abuse, and the purpose you will create from your suffering.

The presence of THAT Gratitude will shield you from adding new Mother resentments, responding to her new invitations for guilt and from the ravages of grief itself when she passes.

Next week we’ll talk more about how to rewire the way you presently grieve. For now, look at your gratitude levels.

A grateful heart is never a fearful heart.

I am literally surrounded physically, emotionally and spiritually with so many reasons to feel Grateful, that I am not in Grief.