The Alpha Grief Handbook: Transform Your Grieving 🦋🌹

Published: Wed, 08/23/23

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Let’s Change How We Grieve, Shall We?

We don’t have to be wiped out by our losses,

be they deaths or disappointments.

Grief can be prevented in some cases and lessened

or shortened in others. You reap what you sow,

so begin doing the work NOW to lighten your load later.

The Alpha Grief Handbook: Transform Your Grieving 🦋🌹

The Plan to Transform Your Grieving

This is Simple, but not easy.

I actually gave it to you last week. You need to be filled up & living from as much gratitude as you can.

The enemies of your Gratitude?

Resentments
Resistances
Regrets
Rescuing

If you’ve been with me long enough,

you may remember that I refer to these as the 4 R’s of Doom.

That’s because this is how you can screw up…ANYTHING positive!

The 4 R’s of Doom keep relationships unhealthy and unhealed,

so when someone passes - the mess accelerates.

Step 1:

Check your Parents for the presence of the 4 R’s.

Step 2:

Surface the trauma that’s driving the relevant R (or Rs).

Step 3:

Allow the pain (really) and heal the pattern by owning what your trauma made you do to try to feel safe.

Step 4:

Create or find a healthy source to meet the unmet need (that only requires you preferably).

Step 5:

Forgive yourself for your R (first) and then forgive your Parents for wounding you.

Wash. Rinse. Repeat on everyone you value, including children and especially adult kids.

Cleaning up your relationships is the only way to reduce

the ravages of Grief from Guilt, Regret and unresolved Anger (Hurt).

Simple. Not easy.

And yes, this process can still be done if they have already passed. There is great value in healing that open wound.

However, you should know that any type of sudden death or completely unexpected loss, is a great deal harder to weather. As is the loss of a child, or a beloved spouse.

Do the best you can to make sure that you have created a healthy relationship and love them well while they are here, because nothing is guaranteed.

To have loved them well will be

the core of the gratitude that will heal your grief.

In Joy,

P.S. One of my Alphas, who is an attorney, wrote me after the first blog and wanted me to remind you, that you should use legal instruments, such as trusts and wills and things of that nature as part of your Parent prep. That’s the legal stuff. It's the easy stuff. You can even use the online prep services.

Don’t forget Final Care Directives, Durable Powers of Attorney and asking them how (or if) they want to be buried.

And for some parents, it’s possible to pick up some of those small life insurance policies that don’t have any health conditions.

If you have dependents that need you or your income, you should have life insurance on yourself. Get it now before some health condition makes it hard to get!

Helping High Achievers Transform Stressful Marriages

After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.

She is a 25-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of 'The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce', Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach.

Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor.

Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.

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