"Ok, You Convinced Me”
(and then the Problems Begin)
Alphas are very
convincing. People specifically call us and to handle matters when someone else needs to be “convinced“.
Starting from a very young age through forever, you spend motherhood convincing your children of doing this, instead of that, trying this, avoiding that.
In our defense, we are in
fact, usually right. Our recommended courses of action are often spot on for the person we are “trying to convince” to listen to us and do it our way.
One problem.
One big problem.
Convincing causes an unseen obstacle, Resistance.
You see, convincing is the application of force. You are pushing something or blocking, something or yanking on something.
If I walk up to you, grab your hand and pull you toward me you will instinctively resist and pull back the other way.
Both physical and energetic convincing,
operates just like that, and causes the unseen obstacle of resistance.
How much resistance?
How much force are you applying to convince someone? That’s how much.
All I need you to understand this week is that
convincing causes resistance.
Convincing is a
Power-Play. It is pure, masculine energy. If you spend too much time convincing people and becoming convincing (yep, I spent decades as a high conflict trial lawyer - as convincing as they get!) you get waaay too comfortable with being in your masculine all the time and using some form of “force” to get your way and control things.
Bleh.
Completely screws relationships (we’ll get to that).
Convincing feels exhausting and you become known as
a tool of force rather than
finesse.All not good.Let’s investigate this together. 
In Joy,
