To get a better handle on claiming - answer these questions:
- How often do you claim victory, when you don’t know HOW to make it happen?
Most Alphas will only claim success or feel good (i.e.
in control) when they are, in fact, in control! If they don’t know HOW an end is to be obtained, they do not feel optimistic or happy about it.
This is the exact opposite of Surrender. In Surrender, you are not the only one on
your side, so you can foresee good outcomes beyond your own abilities.
- How often do you claim (use) your ability to ask for help, without procrastination or worry?
Confidently Asking for help is a skill set you want to practice. If you find yourself only asking after much procrastination and worry, you aren’t surrendering.
Confident Asking does not wait until
you Bottom Out. It’s also NOT Confident Asking to ask but still “keep the problem active in your head”. Remember Stopping?
How often do you claim peace in the middle of your struggles?
When you ask for help, believing you’ll really receive it, you’ll feel peace right when you ASK - not after the help is given.
Think back to see if you felt peaceful AS you asked for help or if you only felt
peaceful after you CONFIRMED the results.
When your Alpha (your leader) is healthy, they WANT you to ask with a comfortable sense of confidence.
Don’t you love it when a friend brings you her worry with, “I just know you’ll know what to say to help me feel better.” That confidence is really a blessing to its receiver.