[Alphas] Frogs vs. Princes: Where IS He? Chapter 2 of 4

Published: Wed, 05/08/19

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Where Do I Find My P.R.I.N.C.E.?

People have contacted me and asked me where I found my soulmate. If I answered them accurately, the answer would be from inside of me!

There is NO WHERE!

Your Prince is nowhere to be found.

You have to make YOURSELF findable. If you ONLY get that and aren't MAD about it, you can stop reading as you are all good.

Catch up here with last week's blog - Frogs vs. Princes Chapter 1 of 4

Remember a P.R.I.N.C.E. is a

Perfect Relationship or Investment Not Common Everywhere

Oh the ~~Joys~~ PROBLEMS of Looking!

“Tanya, are you staying I should STOP looking?!?”

YES.

“Ok (Not ok.) Then, how will I find him?”

Parable time: When the student is ready the teacher appears. This ancient teaching has survived because of its truth.

When the Princess is ready, the P.R.I.N.C.E. appears.

Here is what you get if you keep looking (hunting) your fantastic opportunity:

1) When you are looking for something, it is because you do not have it right now. Your energy, your point of attraction and focus are on the “not having it" more than the "having it". That tends to make it not appear.

2) When you’ve been looking for something for a very long time, you get stressed, anxious and discouraged. Sometimes you even get angry and bitter or resentful and jealous. None of these is an attractive energy to get what you really want. And in fact, these repel opportunities that come anywhere near you.

3) When you are looking for something, it presupposes that you are already "qualified" to receive whatever it is you’re looking for! This is (sorry) usually not the case. We are usually looking for something that is "ahead" of us. We hope that the improved thing improves us too! Kind of a "give me a promotion and then I'll show you I can do the work". Please remember that Cinderella was NOT improved as a person, they just changed her clothes and her shoes! She was ALREADY more of a princess than any of the other women around.

4) When you’re looking for something you have a strong bias toward what HE (or it) must look like. Meaning, if the Universe wants to send you your P.R.I.N.C.E. in his current frog version, you WILL miss him. Alphas that can work with a F.R.O.G. (frightening and real opportunity to grow) will have a head start on you! I could still be still if I did this wrong!

Frogs vs. Princes: Fooled You! Don't Look, Attract!

To STOP Searching is TRUST

Everyone wants a P.R.I.N.C.E. and nobody wants a F.R.O.G. But now you understand that relationships are meant to grow you both. If you’re both changed together, there HAS to be some F.R.O.G! In all the situations and Happily Ever Afters I have personally experienced, including my own, the P.R.I.N.C.E. didn’t look like a prince right from the start.

That means, if you’re looking for a prince, you won’t spot him. It's like looking for that one owner 17,000 mile used car, driven on Sundays by a grandmother, selling for 90% off. If you permit yourself to be found by a F.R.O.G. and will then trust your intuition…that could be the start of a Happily Ever After.

For this week, focus on you. Lose the weight you want to lose. Fix the credit you want to fix. Write the book you want to write. Forgive the Ex you are still mad at. Whatever it is that you keep telling yourself that you need to get done for him...Do. That. Now.

Make yourself into a Ready Princess. Remember my teaching about becoming purse ready? That’s what this is. Make yourself Purse Ready so that when your F.R.O.G. who will become your P.R.I.N.C.E. finds you, you have less to do and can roll with something a little scary more easily.

Next week - why P.R.I.N.C.E.S. Tend to Look Like F.R.O.G.S.

In Joy,

P.S. I cannot tell you the freedom I experienced when I STOPPED looking. I remember my good friend telling me how she'd enter every business conference and scope the room for "possibles" and "competition". Exhausting.

Can you still have an active online dating profile and not be looking? Yep. I've done that in my past. The not looking is an energy IN you that says, "I'm good with myself right now. I'm not MISSING something."

P.P.S. For those keeping track, this is the last blog before I marry MY P.R.I.N.C.E. this Saturday May 11th in South Australia. My actual fairy tale dream come true! I'm still very busy but I am getting covered in waves of the magic now! You CAN have want you want Alphas. Ask me. Only I'll answer in June, because I'm not doing anything other than playing in Bali the rest of the month after my Big Day :-)

My Bridal Bouquet - Colors Dark Teal Blue & Grey

Tanya Stewart is "The Alpha Woman Coach" and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change to people she works with.

She is a speaker, published author and Mensa member whose coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor. She can teach you to separate struggle from success.

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