I'm in my Happily Ever After. And no two are the same. My soulmate is the BEST vehicle to deliver my deepest lessons. Why? Because I am the MOST invested in our happiness of anything in my life.
When I met my mate, I knew he was mine. He was NOT is the state I was looking for. He was NOT in the state he is NOW. My closest friends wondered a bit but they trusted me. I wondered a bit more but I trusted GOD.
My P.R.I.N.C.E. was in a state of extremes. Too much work, too much drinking, too little exercise and too little sleep. I could see we would be balancing each other.
The skill my F.R.O.G. P.R.I.N.C.E. gave me was the ability to love myself and fill myself up WHILE disregarding gaps in what he could give. THAT is counterintuitive!
Alphas learn in the beginning of our lives to give TOO much. Then we armor up. We get into the "he'd better be what I need, he'd better love me my way, he'd better have all his shit together..." mode in our late 30-60s+.
The evolution past that brittle place returns you to your origins but without the fear. In the beginning you gave too much out of FEAR you'd get abandoned. On the far side of the bell curve, you can give BEFORE YOU GET, out of your love and abundance.
I had ENOUGH LOVE to carry me over rough bits where old me would have hit BAIL. I did not hit BAIL and am now in BALI. (Love the symmetry on that!)
Every since I hit this lesson, I am seeing it in my Alphas. You will hit a moment where your job is to keep your OWN love tank full while your mate hits his lessons with his ego. He does NOT have me coaching him!
Your F.R.O.G. will screw things up. He will step in it. He will withdraw, run or speak harshly. Your course is to stand still, love him and continue to do YOUR lessons without bailing or winge-ing (Ozzie phrase for complaining - to winge) that HE ISN'T DOING HIS WORK WELL ENOUGH.
Your long dark teatime with your soul may be short, it may be long. You may get two! I did. Whatever it is, it's YOURS to do.
On the other side, you both move closer to your P.R.I.N.C.E.
P.R.I.N.C.E.s are M.A.D.E. NOT B.O.R.N.
So are Princesses! Be willing to stand and do your work. Be willing to love where love is needed but not necessarily earned. Remember, trust is given not earned.
When your F.R.O.G. feels real love, unconditional love, love that he doesn't deserve, it will crack his heart open and he will begin to believe that HE is worthy of love. You cannot explain worthiness with words, it must be believed to be experienced.
This is the love of a mother for a child in trouble, minus the correction.
P.R.I.N.C.E.s start as F.R.O.G.s because we ALL start there. We grow together. Kiss your F.R.O.G.S. ladies because you appreciate and love them where they are and then they'll choose to grow and take the scary path to Princehood.
Princes are valiant in fairytales and that heroism is always tested. He will have to do the scariest thing on earth, entrust his previously damaged heart to you.
Show him how it's done and love him first without guarantee of reward. Kiss him even though he could just be a frog and trust your Universe to evolve YOU Alpha.
