This is such an important topic, I started it last week. So re-read it here:

P.R.I.N.C.E.S. Tend to Look Like F.R.O.G.S. 

Critical: YOU are not TURNING HIM from a F.R.O.G. to a P.R.I.N.C.E. 
 
("Frightening but Real Opportunity to Grow" Guy into "Perfect Relationship or Investment Not Common Everywhere). Cannot be DONE. 

YOU ARE going to do the three things on the planet you can do that make it way MORE likely he'll turn himself! What are those three things? Read on!

F.R.O.G. -> P.R.I.N.C.E. is Seed -> Flower

Did you ever grow a flower? Good. Then you’ll get this. YOU don’t force it from SEED to SUNFLOWER. You fertilize, water and weed. That is IT. 

First, a quick list of things NOT to do. 

1) You don’t get to “build” the seed. Dandelions seeds will NEVER become roses.  Pick better at the start. 

2) You don’t get to directly control the speed your plant grows. Dig up a seed to “correct” it and let me know how that works for you!  You may not get a Prince in YOUR time frame. 

3) You don’t get to force the bloom color. Ok, there are master gardeners (forceful Alphas) who can. I am a 21+ year divorce lawyer. Trust me. You don’t want to force a man to become what he isn’t.