[Tools] Lessons from Isolation #2 (Warning: Ugly Truth Bomb Inside)

Published: Wed, 04/08/20

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What Being Alone Teaches...

This Lesson will be "confronting" (that's Australian for "may upset you"). The world IS in crisis and there is a need for light and happy. There is also a need for us to face our shadows.

Link hands with me and let's look into our emotional closets for a moment.

Being alone will show you your own level of Self-Love.

Lessons From Isolation: Face Your Self-Love

Isolation Shows How You Feel About You

I'm going to rip off a band-aid. You don't love yourself the way you THINK you do. And most likely do not love yourself.

In decades of coaching regular people, Alphas, celebrities and other coaches, I've discovered almost everyone is lying to themselves about how much they love theirself. Yes, that included me!

I thought, just like you, that of course I loved myself. And...nope. In fact, I hated me.

Why is this truth critical? Seminal? And the first step you MUST TAKE?

You cannot receive truth, resonate to truth or be told truth so long as you are LYING to yourself.

When you lie to you about loving you, OTHERS lie to you about loving you. (That explains some things right?)

Everything you do becomes an attempt to PROVE you are worthy of love (our over-achieving, our super-human endurance, our rescuing).

Isolation Takes Away the Distractions

In isolation you've lost most of the outside stimulus you use to distract you from how you feel about you. Your mind, which spends its time doubting you, judging you and spinning you, is in HIGH GEAR. And you don't have the pacifiers to soothe it.

Yes, I hated myself. No, I didn't know it.

Yes, when I realized it ALL my crud made sense. All the self-sabotage, the dumb mistakes, the abusive relationships, the suffering and struggle. If I didn't LIKE me, of course I would treat me that way!

Just Consider This May Be True

I've taught you and other Alphas for years. While I wish I could send you a message with pictures of pretty shoes today to make you smile, I want you to break free to the life you are called to. The world needs you NOW.

Depression and anxiety are way up. Why? Depression is a very clear manifestation of self-dislike. We are drowning right now, not just because our money is uncertain, but because the drug of mass approval we've always taken to avoid looking in the mirror and seeing someone we aren't proud of, has been cut off.

If you face this truth, it will hurt and you will bottom.

And then...you will rise. You will rise as you connect the dots and see that YOU stopped you. You blocked you. You kept you from love.

And what does that mean?

You can have what you want. What you REALLY want. You can learn to start liking yourself a little and eventually to love yourself. This is NOT an overnight process. I'm an expert, used coaches and it still took me awhile. But...

Every piece of joy. Every gift. Every blessing. Every prize. My present life. My new calling. They are all SAFE and secure because now, finally, I DO love me. I don't need you to love me. I don't need my husband to love me (even though I forget that one from time to time).

If I am alone, I am not lonely. I don't need approval because I have my own and because I love me, when I love YOU, you feel it like nothing else. You can feel it across 10,000 miles.

So, yes. You don't love you. And if that's true, it explains...well...everything.

You WANT to and I want you to. You just have to start from where you really ARE.

Isolation Makes You Face Your Self-Love

In Joy,

P.S. There are some who are okay alone or in isolation because they are used to hiding from others to feel safe. That's not Self-Loving either.

Like a mom who loves, I am okay with risking your disapproval to help you grow. Yes, this is a heavy time and yes this is bombshell with no sugar coating but it's time.

To start, all you have to do is tell the truth that you aren't where you pretend you are and the Universe WILL show up to guide you. I promise.

Being Alone: The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

Tanya Stewart is "The Alpha Woman Coach" and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change to people she works with.

She is a speaker, published author and Mensa member whose coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor. She can teach you to separate struggle from success.

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