Whatever has been done to you... WHATEVER it is...you know you played some part - even if it’s as simple as picking that highway, that marriage, that bar or that moment to speak up.
If you do not forgive yourself FIRST you CANNOT forgive them.
The order of the forgiveness is not a suggestion.
You literally cannot give more (of anything) to someone else than you’ve first given to yourself.
If you’ve decided to forgive someone or something - you first forgive whatever part your HEAD says you’ve played.
Do not argue with the part that feels guilt. It blames you.
Forgive whatever it SAYS you did.
Do not avoid looking for your part. I assure you its there!
--->> I had a man try to kill me and I played a part in that (big one actually).
I couldn’t forgive what happened to me until I stopped punishing myself about putting myself INTO that position.
Make sense?
