Myth Buster: Overwhelm is NOT About "THEM" Either! 😜 (+ Retreat Pics!)

Published: Wed, 04/28/21

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Anyone...Anyone...Anyone ELSE but ME?? Nope.

Hot tip: it’s you.

Let me back up… Everything is you.

There, now you get it.

My favorite two coaching words are STOP IT.

Can you figure out the thing that you’re doing (that you shouldn’t be doing) that‘s blocking you? Good… Stop it!

If you want to laugh, you can see who taught my coaching style BEFORE me in 6 mins (he’s famous!) Watch & laugh here

So seriously, overwhelm it’s NOT about them. It’s about YOU.

It’s not your husband. It’s not your kid. It’s not your boss. It’s not your homeowners association (well, maybe a little on them 😆). It’s not the holidays…

It’s about you NOT making decisions.

It’s about you letting time blur so you can avoid things.

It’s about you being afraid to say NO to someone.

It’s about your patterns.

Overwhelm is about YOU, not them.

(And that's good news. It means you can fix it by yourself!)

Myth Busters: Overwhelm Is NOT About THEM

Stop Saying the "O" Word...

Next time that dreadful “O” word is on your lips, pull it back. And put your focus onto you.

Overwhelm is quintessentially about being somebody else’s victim. And I teach that you do one thing the way you do everything.

That means if you victim like this, you victim in other ways (hint: your relationships).

So to avoid becoming somebody else’s victim, you need to take RESPONSIBILITY.

Alphas get this wrong. We seek to take CONTROL first.

Responsibility always proceeds control and power. Always.

Take responsibility for HOW you get overwhelmed, WHY you get overwhelmed and why you CONTINUE to permit it.

And then… Stop it! :-)

In Joy,

P.S. Just so you know, the opposite of overwhelm is NOT an absence of “things to do“. It is timely, responsible choice making.

My responsible choice right now?

I am on a weeklong spiritual retreat at the Sevenhill Jesuit Retreat Center in South Australia. It’s located in the famous Clare Valley winemaking region. And...Yes! They make their own wine! (See? God loves me!)

My responsible choice was to seek some physical and spiritual rest. I was struggling to find a place to go on retreat. I wanted to state in-state due to the virus snap border closures. I wanted a retreat “purpose” that I could customize to MY needs (working on my finishing my Phd in Metaphysics). AND that it not be $1 billion while serving me just lettuce and tomatoes.

Job done ✅

Once I remembered I work for God and I am entitled to privileges, I simply prayed and asked for a spot. The idea to call a closed place popped in my head and they referred me to THIS place, which is literally heaven.

Go Jesuits! I am now totally on the side of their faith.

I’ve studied their foundations, developed by St. Ignatius of Loyola Spain, and it’s really solid. Precursor of many metaphysical traditions I’d say.

Everybody Needs A Little Time Away...It Prevents Overwhelm.

Helping High Achievers Transform Stressful Marriages

After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.

She is a 22-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of 'The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce', Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach.

Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor.

Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.

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