Myth Buster: Overwhelm is NOT REAL! 😨

Published: Wed, 04/07/21

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I'm Calling BS on...Overwhelm!

Let's do this.

First, here's my definition of Overwhelm: The state that comes from our repeated failure to make choices. (Yep. That simple.)

God & The Universe USE Overwhelm to get you to NOTICE you are doing a poor job of loving yourself. (Again, that simple.)

Overwhelm is NOT A REAL THING, its actually a state of "learned helplessness". A reaction.

Overwhelm Ain't Real, but You WISH It Was!

I'm going to make 4 BOLD claims this month and then back them all up!

Overwhelm is NOT REAL

Overwhelm is NOT RANDOM

Overwhelm is NOT ABOUT TIME

Overwhelm is NOT ABOUT "THEM"

Get ready to get triggered!

-> Are you wearing your "Overwhelm" like a badge of honor?

-> Do you compete with the other moms (especially SINGLE moms) in the "I am the Most Overwhelmed Woman In the World" Chat Olympics??

Overwhelm is COMMON because it serves a purpose - to deflect responsibility and give you an "out". It's the emotional place you go into (willingly!) to reap the 'sympathy praise', the 'extra extensions' and the 'your quality can be lower' leeway.

I gave up Overwhelm like a drug (it's addictive) years ago. I don't use it in my vocabulary any longer.

Look back over the last 3 months...how often have you spoken the mantra of the busy woman, "I'm soo overwhelmed..."?

I'll teach you the truth about Overwhelm in bits because it's radical stuff.

For this week, introduce the idea that Overwhelm is BS and not real. It's the place we KNOW we'll end up when we put off making necessary choices and let it all stack up.

Do we have a lot of choices to make? Yes.
Are deadlines closing in? Yes.
Does that require the dreaded (coveted) state of... OVERWHELM?

NO.

Stop thinking of Overwhelm as REAL and VALID.

Start looking at it suspiciously when it arrives in your life. It's a shady character!

What's funny is, it is VERY easy to see Overwhelm as BS when you look at other people's Overwhelm and impossible to see the same for yourself.

Example: 17 year old girl is too busy with friends and social media to keep on top of her school work. Shockingly, at the end of term, every class has an exam! 2 days to finals and NOW she is up ALL NIGHT, sobbing about how...(wait for it) Overwhelmed she is!

BS. Simply a series of choices she refused to make all stacked up.

Her "Overwhelm" state is her request for a "Get Out of Jail Free Card". If you give her one, she'll never learn to stop putting off decisions (Learned Helplessness).

See how easy it is to see for someone else? Trust me. It's the same for you ;-)

In Joy,

P.S I consider the word "Overwhelm" a curse word. I won't use it. I won't raise that emotional flag and seek to blackmail those around me with it. Nor will not encourage my own misbehavior.

Alphas like accountability. I want you to get tough on yourself about this.

Helping High Achievers Transform Stressful Marriages

After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.

She is a 22-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of 'The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce', Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach.

Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor.

Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.

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