Myth Buster: Overwhelm is NOT RANDOM! 👀

Published: Wed, 04/14/21

Photo of Tanya, Coach for Alpha Women Entrepreneurs

No Accident. Not Random. Sorry!

Overwhelm is NOT random.

The people who get overwhelmed, KEEP getting overwhelmed.

The people who DON'T get overwhelmed, keep NOT getting overwhelmed.

It’s a pattern.

A habitual way of thinking and expecting creates a PATTERN in how you decide and behave.

THAT Pattern leads you routinely back into overwhelm: which we’ve agreed is the failure to make a series of decisions that all stack up.

Overwhelm: Why You Keep Doing It

So why does it matter that your overwhelm is NOT random?

It tells you the SOURCE of it!

It means that you are stuck in a pattern which is subconscious (aka you don't notice it and think that it’s being “done to you“ instead of you “picking it“).

And because you think someone is INFLICTING overwhelm on you (victim), you never address the REAL root cause of your overwhelm...which is you!

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Random things aren’t stable or predictable. And your overwhelm is both.

It’s predictable that you get overwhelmed at holidays like Christmas, when all of your family’s needs and conflicts pile up.

And once you GET overwhelmed, the crappy, fractured way you feel remains stable. That means joy can't accidentally poke through and you stop noticing good things (think Grinch whose heart was 3 sizes too small).

Once you descend into your abyss of overwhelm, you stay very reliably stuck there.

Usually you’re waiting for an offer of rescue (that’s not coming) or the "unavoidable" meltdown (that forces some of the external demands to bend).

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Stop pretending that your overwhelm is random and comes from people outside of you, screwing with you and your schedule.

Take five minutes right now and decide that your overwhelm is a PATTERN that belongs to YOU.

This is a big step.

It is the first real step toward overwhelm responsibility for you.

Take that step RIGHT NOW.

I’m here. I’ve got you.

In Joy,

P.S I dare you to look back over the past year or two and chart the times that you felt overwhelmed.

You will see a pattern. You will notice the external triggers you use to start avoiding making important decisions.

We are pulling up our big girl panties all month on this. It’s OK to admit that this is OUR pattern. It's not shameful. The first step to breaking any pattern is spotting and owning it. :-)

Next Week: Overwhelm is NOT ABOUT TIME

Helping High Achievers Transform Stressful Marriages

After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.

She is a 22-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of 'The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce', Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach.

Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor.

Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.

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