Dalai Lama Rules for life 11 through 15
Are you applying the rules to your life? You can always take a few and see how they can help you.
In fact, if you chose even ONE of these rules each week and make an honest effort to consider them and improve yourself, you'll see results. Do the work Ladies!
11. Live a good honorable life. Then when you look back, you'll be able to enjoy it a second time.
This rule is telling you to live in integrity, so you can avoid the most painful conditions of human life, regrets and resentments.
People literally rob themselves of the life they have TODAY, by spending their time in the past.
If you do not act with integrity, not just toward others but mainly toward YOURSELF, you generate land mines that you trip over for the rest of your life.
”We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is not an act, but a habit.” Aristotle
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
Read that again. OK, maybe just give it one more quick scan.
I’ll be blunt here. If your home is shit for some reason (any reason) you need to handle it.
The reason could be because the toilets leak, your children fight or your husband ignores you. Maybe it’s because you hate your stove...
Doesn’t matter.
Make creating, restoring, requiring and investing in a loving atmosphere CRITCAL TO YOUR LIFE (because it is!).
The biggest thing you can do to create a loving atmosphere and your homes to create a loving atmosphere inside yourself. If you want my help with that you should ask.
13. In disagreements, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.
Review my comments on rule 11 about how your past is full of land mines.
This is very simple. You either want to be right or you want to be happy.
People that want to be right, continually bring up the past to display themselves as victims of you and to cast you as a repeat offender.
This is the exact kind of "past acts evidence" that is blocked in a lot of criminal trials, so that a criminal can actually receive a “fair trial.”
Our legal system has determined that if you allow in the history of everybody’s bad acts, people just assume you’re guilty of whatever is going on right now.
If you were dragging up the past, you want the person in front of you to be guilty rather than the situation to be resolved.
And yes, if they’re doing this to you that’s what they want also.
We have learned that the only safety is in winning. Stop it.
The very desire and intention to win when you’re involved with your partner means that you, deep down, picture yourself on different teams!
If you DID view your partner as part of the SAME team, you would not pull against a teammate and block your common cause.
14. Share your knowledge. It is the way to achieve immortality.
I am not a coach. In the strict sense, I am not a coach. I use the term because it’s closest and lets you understand easiest what I am.
I am a teacher. In fact, if you work with me you’ll discover that you do not do most of the talking! Once I understand your problem, I’m talking because I’m teaching you how to solve it.
I share my knowledge and in doing that, who I am and what I believe and the children that I’ve protected, will go on long after I’m gone.
Find a way to teach. Share your knowledge so that what you’ve learned goes on to protect and serve and grow others long after you’re gone.
15. Be gentle with the Earth.
I very much like the Dalai Lama’s use of the word “gentle” here. I don’t think that any of us need to do crazy things to do better with the environment. I don’t think we need to dump petroleum, coal and oil like it’ll cause death tomorrow. I don’t think we all need to never use a plastic bag again.
In fact, I think groups that position it that way do more harm to their cause than not.
If you just think, “how can I be more gentle with the earth?”
A little more recycling, a little less consumption, a little more cleaning, a little more willingness to spend more to use less. Just a little more respect for the natural.
Be gentle with the earth because this is our only home.
Maybe the earth should have a big sign saying hanging up like they do in some work cafeterias: “Clean up after yourself, your mother doesn’t work here.” 😊
P.S. Need help picking one? Go for the loving atmosphere in your home. Even adding a plant somewhere you'll see it can give your heart a boost. Do something THIS week to make your
home feel "cozy". I've been burning a new candle that smells delicious!
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