Model Mastery: The D.L. Rules for Life 1-5 💖

Published: Wed, 05/05/21

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Rules 1-5 for Your Life!

This month, it's time for something new!

I always ask my heart what to teach you. I felt an answer rising in me and I looked up at my office wall and saw the hanging I bought in Bali that holdings the Dalai Lama’s lessons for life.

We are going to model some masters, OK, one master, this month.

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

What I want you to surface inside of yourself is where you may be lying to yourself, that you can go after this “great thing” without “great” cost, risk, investment or change.

The law of balance in the universe is perfect.

You don’t get to receive something in the realm of greatness, without bringing yourself up to the level of greatness first. And THAT is what involves the great risk.

Are you willing?

2. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.

I was just teaching this. Your goal is to focus LESS on the pain of the lesson and more on the lesson itself.

A lot of times we resist truth (OK, almost ALL the time we resist truth).

When it finally arrives, it’s painful. Sometimes we get so distracted by how much “the truth hurts", that we lose sight of what the actual truth was showing us.

Don’t do that.

3. Follow the 3 R's. Respect for self...

Respect for others...

Responsibility for your actions.

I know you’re good at seeing when OTHER people don’t follow these three R’s.

How good are YOU in spotting when YOU don’t follow the 3R’s?

Alphas are extraordinary with responsibility and good with respecting others. It’s the first one you are dodgy on. Admit it.

4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

I recommend you go back and find three of these “unanswered prayers" that saved your bacon!

You were asking for something that would’ve brought you harm, sadness or just been so much LESS than what you ended up with. Point them out.

This helps you not to get so triggered the next time you don’t immediately get exactly what you’re wishing for and not slide right into Alpha control mode.

5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

Yep. I did not edit a single word of that. Clearly the Dalai Lama is a man after my own heart.

The trick is, you first have to know how to follow, respect and have the discipline to OBEY the rules, before you are eligible to alter them, so that whatever you’re doing actually accomplishes the spirit of the law BETTER than blind obedience would have.

I agree with famous author Jordan Patterson in this: I believe the younger generations that are busy trying to tear down, remake, remove and destroy all old established structures and institutions missed a step.

FIRST they need to show that they CAN color inside the lines, before critiquing & tearing up everyone else’s art.

In Joy,

P.S. This was fun! I'm off to buy myself 3 different massagers (just NO way to write that and make it sound right! 😜 lol). A neck and shoulder one, lower back one and foot one. I had all those and gave them up to move to Australia. The combo will be smaller than a full massage chair.

I had just been lamenting I gave up my goodies (plugs wouldn't fit here) and boom, Aldi grocery store decides to sell them ALL just before Mother's Day. Cross your fingers all 3 are there and have yourself an excellent Mother's Day.

P.P.S. You don't need to "have" kids or have given birth to celebrate yourself. My stepkids are adults and probably don't think of me that way but you know what? They ARE my kids. So are my Alphas. Happy Mother's Day everyone!

Helping High Achievers Transform Stressful Marriages

After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.

She is a 22-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of 'The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce', Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach.

Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor.

Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.

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