Model Mastery: The D.L. Rules for Life 16 -20 😊

Published: Wed, 05/26/21

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Dalai Lama Rules for life 16 - 20

I am hearing from you that you are really enjoying Modeling this Master. I have enjoyed bring some of his "rules" to life for you.

Which one was your favorite? Which one was the hardest to do?

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16. Once a year go someplace you've never been before.

Here, the Dalai Lama was encouraging us to let go of our sense of mastery and step out of our comfort zone.

When you go someplace you’ve never been, you make room for the unexpected. You expect to learn and, if you are wise, you do not expect to be in control.

It would be wise for you to do this MORE often than once a year, so you can practice having ALL these feelings together: excitement, surrender, curiosity, appreciation, newness, guidance and adventure.

Create relationship where you love more than you need

17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your LOVE for each other exceeds your NEED for each other.

Preach. PREACH IT! Ladies, can we get an Amen from my fellow “rescuers”?
Love is wanting the best for them. Need is about you.

When your focus is more about wanting for them what God wants for them than it is about getting something you’re missing AND they feel the same THEN you can build a strong marriage.

And yes, there is still much work to be done. But this is a definition of what the proper foundation is composed of.

If there is imbalance: you love them and they need you OR do you need them and they need you OR anything other than love dominant, trouble WILL find you.

If you’re struggling in a relationship, this rule has always been violated. Don’t despair. I’ve mucked this one up most of my life.

Art of Self Rescue is about creating BALANCE inside you and therefore OUTSIDE you. Ask me for help.

18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

We get so focused on whatever it is we’re chasing, that we lose sight of what we lose, pay, and compromise in order to “get there.“

As a former high conflict Divorce Lawyer, let me share one of the most common reasons marriages fall apart. Men are led to believe that their primary job is to provide a “good living“ for their family.

So they go to work ...they stay at work and when they come home? They’re mentally still at work or emotionally exhausted. And in the end, they receive financial “success“. That success gets divided up during the divorce and they missed their own children’s childhood.

They conveniently forget all the begging to come love and play NOW.

They are bitter and broken. Not worth it.

Alpha women do this also, pursuing whatever huge magic savings account balance or author status they are chasing.

Hint: Never buy anything that “costs“ love as it’s price.

19. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.

You’ve probably heard another master, Wayne Dyer, say “There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way.”

I don’t have to tell you to show OTHERS compassion. I have to tell you to show YOURSELF compassion.

If you are not gentle and full of empathy for your own hurts and your own mistakes and your own frustrations, you are being careless and rough with yourself.

Happiness is like a butterfly and doesn’t stick around carelessness, roughness and insensitivity.

Just as it’s easy to see how others are made happier when shown emotional tolerance, the same is true of you.

My husband cooking last night - his appetizer!

20. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.

What do you loving cooking have in common? They are both create something new and delicious by combining other things plus chemistry.
Too much caution in love or cooking comes from fear. Fear it won’t turn out the way you planned. Fear of losing control. Fear of someone else not liking the results.

There has never been a famous and well loved cook that was known as “fearful.“

If you are fearful in love, you do not provide the most essential ingredient, which is your whole heart. You go into it, literally, half hearted and validate yourself with its predictable failure.

Reckless abandon doesn’t mean you don’t follow a recipe or that you throw things in blindly or stupidly but it means sometimes, you just take the chance and see how it turns out.

In Joy,

P.S. Need an easy way to remember what “compassion“ looks like? Compassion is the OPPOSITE of bitchiness. (See? Dalai Lama needs me! Lol.) Stop being soo bitchy to yourself love. Be nicer with you.

Helping High Achievers Transform Stressful Marriages

After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.

She is a 22-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of 'The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce', Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach.

Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor.

Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.

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