🏆 Unlikely Addictions Series: Are You Addicted to...WINNING? 🏆

Published: Wed, 07/21/21

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You want to WIN!

Are you addicted to winning? :-)

You’ve probably heard the famous question, “Would you rather be right or happy?" Alphas want to be RIGHT.

True Story: My first marriage was in a Catholic church, where the priest has to interview the couple first. He asked the happy vs. right question.

I said "Right" and he said "Happy." Serious foreshadowing!

To clarify - "being right" is WINNING!

Winning = Being Right = Being Safe!

And Alphas love to win because "being right" is subconsciously associated with being “safe."

You see, when you are “right“ about your world, you know how someone’s going to treat you and whether you can get what you need from them, which is a WIN.

You feel better because "being right" gives you more control, which you equate with your “happiness“.

We don’t realize it, but we always want to win because it’s about our survival needs.

And don't forget, that we were all trained as children that we get MORE love when we win!

Example: How your Mom reacted to your "A" on the test vs. your "C".

That A was a Win that was rewarded, that C was NOT.

Can anybody imagine a Superbowl Championship football team that doesn’t have any women to celebrate their win with??

To the winners go the spoils has survived centuries

because it is STILL TRUE.

So if you’re wondering if you’re addicted to winning, the answer is yes.

You may be able to resist the urge to cheat, in order to win at Scrabble. However, that doesn’t mean that you won't cheat (your own feelings) trying to be pleasing and win approval.

**Can you let someone else be wrong about your expertise or (GASP)

LET someone CALL YOU WRONG without trying to "fix it?"

The addiction to winning comes from our habit of needing to control outcomes to feel safe. Winners control outcomes.

For the next week, notice all the "winning" going on around you. Notice the elation and rejoicing. Notice the resentment and frustration of the losers.

Just noticing it will help you begin to spot your own Unlikely Addiction to Winning. Unlikely because NO ONE thinks it's a problem!

In Joy,

P.S. Fun Fact: Life gets soo much easier when you break your addiction to winning all the time! When you don't have to be right, be the best and be perfect, you recover MASSIVE amounts of energy that you can actually use for...shocker...doing things that genuinely make you HAPPY.

Helping High Achievers Transform Stressful Marriages

After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.

She is a 22-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of 'The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce', Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach.

Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor.

Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.

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