Okay.
You read that thinking, well that’s not me!
Look again.
Have you LIED to yourself about how someone was treating you, rationalizing their behavior and abuse?
When it was time for you to share your deep needs and hurts, did you LIE to the other person because you were pretty sure if you told the truth it would start a war you didn’t want to fight?
And yes, you’re wonderfully reliable for other people. But what about…for yourself? Are you UNRELIABLE with the promises you make to yourself, for your own self love, self-care and self trust?
Hint: You are. You are always at the bottom of your own lists.
And after the inevitable relationship ending fight comes, you look backward and wonder how you MISSED IT. Wasn’t it all plain and clear to see? Wasn’t it that you just withdrew yourself from seeing the truth about that person, that job, that relationship?
Didn’t you just close your eyes to reality (DISCONNECT FROM) so you could keep trying to save whoever or whatever you wanted to save?
Haven’t you done things that you now are ashamed of doing? All because you FEARED THE LOSS of the love of someone, who you NOW realize never really loved you? (I have. More than once.)
And haven’t you STOLEN from yourself? Haven’t you taken your time, your heart, your money, your energy and your ability to “take a punch“ and GIVEN it to someone who didn’t ask for it and didn’t appreciate it?
Oh.
Yeah.
Truth that's creepy and icky and hard to swallow. Alphas have the Unlikely sounding Addiction to LOVE.
It’s okay. The first step in any addiction recovery process is to own the truth that you are out of control in regards to the item that you are addicted to.
To figure out what “hole“ inside you are trying to fill with the object of the addiction, in this case someone’s love and approval.
You can get clean. I got clean.
Getting clean of your approval addiction is one thing.
STAYING clean another.
If you need help. Ask. I’ve GOT you. I’ve been there. Hit reply & ask.
